End a Relationship

Persistent misalignment on core values, life goals, or mutual respect — rather than temporary conflict — is typically the clearest signal. If you consistently feel emotionally drained, unsupported, or unable to be yourself, these patterns are meaningful. This tool evaluates long-term goal alignment and emotional well-being together because a relationship's health is visible in both dimensions simultaneously.

Yes. Uncertainty before a major relationship decision is normal and does not mean you are making the wrong choice. What matters is whether that uncertainty stems from genuine love and potential, or from fear of change and the unknown. A low confidence score in this tool reflects that uncertainty and appropriately tempers the overall recommendation.

External pressure — from family, friends, or social expectations — is almost never a healthy primary reason to end a relationship. The scoring model penalizes high external pressure precisely because decisions made to satisfy others tend to carry regret. Your decision should be grounded in your own clarity about what you need.

Goal alignment in relationships encompasses shared values, life-stage compatibility around children, location, and lifestyle, and mutual support for each other's individual development. Two people can deeply care for each other and still be fundamentally misaligned in ways that create chronic friction. This factor carries significant weight in the scoring model.

Try asking: if nothing about this relationship changed in the next two years, would I still want to be in it? Clarity on that question, more than how you feel this week, is a stronger signal of the right decision. Emotional stress in a difficult relationship can cloud whether you want to leave because the relationship is wrong for you, or because you are exhausted and need rest.